Break-Down in Communication

Every human being communicates in her/his own way and uses her/his most familiar media for message transfers. The messages can be meaningful and rich, with many or no words expressed. But often the messages are devoid of any meaning, even though they are conveyed with plenty of spoken or written words. Why devoid of any meaning? Because they are not in sink with our feelings. Because we are intentionally or unintentionally hiding our true selves, the truth.

The problem with communication in a modern society is that we are neglecting our feelings. We try to hide them and we do no want to face them. We run towards immediate comfort and away from reality.

The intra-family relations represent even a bigger problem. It seems that the members of the immediate family are turning into strangers. We are no longer able to share our feelings with our family members or they are no longer willing to listen to us, while the anonymous people on the internet forums seem to be willing to lend their ears.

So why are the expecting mothers able to express their fears in detail on various forums or share their most intimate thoughts with a person on the other side of the line? And not with the father of their own children? Why do they trust a person, whom they do not really know, but seem to know more about them than about their closest family members at the same time?

Do we ever think about how this behavioural pattern affects our lives? What is our attitude towards ourselves and our closest family members? What is our attitude towards our children? What example are we setting for our children and what messages are we conveying? Are we aware of the long-term consequences of our actions, which will one day reflect on our children?

Why is the communication in our modern society so difficult, so mysterious? We are always rushing to reach our ever-expanding goals. We are always competing and seeking material possessions, while forgetting ourselves and our true needs. We are trying to come across as perfect, super-natural, better than everyone else. But we are hiding our true selves and what we are ashamed of. We do not love ourselves, we do not appreciate ourselves, and our self-esteem is low. We cannot accept ourselves for who we are.

And here lies the biggest paradox; that each human being is unique, different from the rest. No better, no worse. (S)he only exists. And (s)he is a part of a whole. The whole would not exist without her/him. But (s)he cannot express her/his own uniqueness until (s)he discovers the truth about herself/himself. Until (s)he faces her/his shadows, which are there to discard the cloak of their own “invisibility.”

For Pre-school “Zasebni vrtec Metulj”, www.vrtec-metulj.si, Maja Škvarč, the founder of Child’s FairyTale.com.

Translated by Vita Šebek

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